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WDW Hiatus

Hey y’all!

Today is the day of something I’ve been talking about for months!  Disney World day!!

I know you haven’t heard from me in a while but preparing for a trip you’ve never taken is hard.  You don’t know what to expect.  What’s the weather?  Spring is unpredictable.  Sunny one second and really cold the next.  I love living in the South. ūüėČ

We woke up bright and early and hit the road at 5am.  I’m talking to you from the car!  The four kids decided they all wanted to ride together in the same car.  Guess who has the biggest vehicle? Haha.  Nearly 7 hours later with these little monsters…

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Feelings are lookin a lot like this!

It’s finally lunch time so we are going to have a picnic!

You can still follow me around The World on Instagram at: mindy.thestepmomster

Happy Easter!!!
–See You Real Soon!–

Xoxo, Mindy (aka. The StepMomster)

I’ll Follow You Anywhere

Being a blended family can be hard enough as it is, but what if you’re a blended military family? ¬†How does that work? ¬†How do you make that work? ¬†I’m talking to ya’ll because I have no idea.

With the possibility of Murphs’ stepdad becoming active again, I’m constantly worrying about how often I’ll actually see Murph. ¬†Yep, Murphs’ dad and stepdad. ¬†Both Marines. (Poor Murph). ¬†Nothing is ever promised when you’re active duty. ¬†I won’t be holding my breath for Murph getting to stay close to home. ¬†Perfect world, right?usdrivein

There are so many mixed emotions with the thoughts of him being much farther than just a quick hours drive away. ¬†Now let me say this… I would go anywhere for that kid! ¬†If that means getting on a plane once a month or so or driving to God only knows where, I’d do it. ¬†For Murph. ¬†For Frank. ¬†For myself. ¬†*Fingers crossed* I don’t have to board an airplane though, but as I said earlier, you can’t write your military life plans in stone.

J has never been too happy with the idea but as I continue to talk about it, he seems to be warming up. ¬†It’s hit him a little harder than the rest of us. ¬†I’m a “go with the flow” kinda girl. ¬†Not too much bothers me and I don’t find too many obstacles that I can’t find some way around, easily. ¬†Not J. ¬†It’s going to take some adjusting for ol’ dad but I’m pretty convincing at times. ¬†ūüėČ

One decision, like this one, has an effect on all seven of us.  It sends different emotions, different fears, different hopes, to each one of us.  This one choice can make or break our entire bonded unit.  We have to all realize what is best for Murph.  What is best for the families, both separate, and together.

It comes up in conversation between Kim and I, quite often. ¬†Like I said, I’d follow Murph anywhere. ¬†As long as he is happy, then I’m okay. ¬†His mother and I have both agreed to do whatever it takes to make it work. ¬†On the plus side, I get to keep my summers with Murph! ¬†YAY ME!

I’m aware that this isn’t helping any of you. ¬†I’m asking ya’ll this time. ¬†Anyone else blended into active military? ¬†How do you manage?

 

Liar, Liar Pants On Fire

I’m just going to be honest. ¬†When I was younger, I lied. ¬†Like… a lot. ¬†I would make up stories to tell my parents just to see if they would believe me. ¬†They did. ¬†Then they didn’t.

I lied just for the fun of it.  Once, in high school, I went to the movies with some friends.  The whole way home I was going over the next bullshit story I was gonna tell.  I even had my friends helping me with the details.  We pulled in the driveway and I just knew I was off the hook with this tale.  Mind you, I had asked if I could go a few hours earlier and was met with a very stern No!

Mom:  Hey, Where you been?

Me: ¬†Well, “so n so’s” mom kept talking to everyone up at school… yada yada… big line of crap… yada yada. And then I came home.

(About now is when my brother starts giggling because he knew I was in deep.  He found it hilarious when I got in trouble, as most big brothers do.)

Dad:  Nope!

Mom:  Try Again.

–Dang it. ¬†Busted. ¬†Why do I do this to myself? ¬†Now I’m not going anywhere for weeks! ¬†Just be honest now, Mindy. ¬†They know. ¬†Maybe you won’t get in as much trouble.–

My head drops…

Me:  I went to the movies.

Mom: ¬†We know. ¬†We went by the school and guess what?… It was dark.

Called that punishment too.  Grounded for quite a while.  So not worth it!

Lesson One, Kids: ¬†Tell the flippin’ truth! ¬†Lesson Two: ¬†Don’t include school in your lie if you live 3 minutes away. ¬†Lesson Three: ¬†Your parents are smarter than you.

Now… with all that being sad, I’m gonna say this.

Don’t lie to me. ¬†Now that I am an adult with children I don’t even understand the concept! ¬†What could be so bad that you have to feed me some off the wall nonsense that I’m not even going to believe anyway? ¬†Save your breath. ¬†Your life will be a lot less complicated if you’re not busy trying to remember what you said in your story. ¬†Remembering the truth is a lot easier!

My children seem to understand the concept better than my husband at times. ¬†I will never be mad if you’re telling the truth.

Never make your kids feel like they can’t come to you. ¬†Don’t make them feel like they can’t tell you the truth. ¬†Even if it’s the worst thing that could happen. ¬†I can guarantee you that they feel worse about having the¬†need to be dishonest with you.