Being a blended family can be hard enough as it is, but what if you’re a blended military family? How does that work? How do you make that work? I’m talking to ya’ll because I have no idea.
With the possibility of Murphs’ stepdad becoming active again, I’m constantly worrying about how often I’ll actually see Murph. Yep, Murphs’ dad and stepdad. Both Marines. (Poor Murph). Nothing is ever promised when you’re active duty. I won’t be holding my breath for Murph getting to stay close to home. Perfect world, right?
There are so many mixed emotions with the thoughts of him being much farther than just a quick hours drive away. Now let me say this… I would go anywhere for that kid! If that means getting on a plane once a month or so or driving to God only knows where, I’d do it. For Murph. For Frank. For myself. *Fingers crossed* I don’t have to board an airplane though, but as I said earlier, you can’t write your military life plans in stone.
J has never been too happy with the idea but as I continue to talk about it, he seems to be warming up. It’s hit him a little harder than the rest of us. I’m a “go with the flow” kinda girl. Not too much bothers me and I don’t find too many obstacles that I can’t find some way around, easily. Not J. It’s going to take some adjusting for ol’ dad but I’m pretty convincing at times. 😉
One decision, like this one, has an effect on all seven of us. It sends different emotions, different fears, different hopes, to each one of us. This one choice can make or break our entire bonded unit. We have to all realize what is best for Murph. What is best for the families, both separate, and together.
It comes up in conversation between Kim and I, quite often. Like I said, I’d follow Murph anywhere. As long as he is happy, then I’m okay. His mother and I have both agreed to do whatever it takes to make it work. On the plus side, I get to keep my summers with Murph! YAY ME!
I’m aware that this isn’t helping any of you. I’m asking ya’ll this time. Anyone else blended into active military? How do you manage?